Amber Rae is easily one of the most ambitious people I’ve ever had the pleasure of meeting. We connected over the interwebs a few months ago, and then met up while I was in New York to exchange pleasantries, ideas and connections (though I’m sure she had more of all of the above to offer).
This week Amber Rae wrote up a post that demonstrates exactly why I think she’s so radical. Not only did this post resonate with me (as most of the content she produces and/or shares does), but it was exactly what I needed to hear, when I needed to hear it. Here’s a sampling of her goodness and insight:
if you are dissatisfied with what someone else is doing — whether at work, in a friendship or in bed — this dissatisfaction is likely rooted in your inability to communicate clearly with that person.
we all have different expectations and styles. when we don’t express what we expect or want, we don’t get it.
similarly, if you feel anxious while collaborating with someone — whether at work, in a friendship or in bed — this anxiety is likely rooted in not knowing what the other person wants or likes.
how do you find out what the other person likes? you, very simply: 1) ask them what they like, 2) give it to them, 3) ask if they liked it, 4) if yes, repeat. if no, ask for feedback and try again.
seems very simple, yes?
it’s much easier to call out what someone else isn’t doing well enough by your standards. it’s far more difficult to put aside personal biases and set ways of doing things to discover how you might please the other person.
If you like connecting with inspiring, driven and exciting people, she is a great place to start. Follow her on the Twitters, check out her blog and watch for her upcoming book to be published! I know I’ll be reserving my copy as soon as I can.
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